How to Deal with Bad Experiences from Your Past
The real challenge of having bad experiences isn’t the experience itself, but the meaning we give them. If we’re not careful or handle those bad experiences well, they can cause us to form limiting beliefs. You may have a hard time trying to forget a bad memory, whether or not you have SAD. It may feel as though you’ve built up a “memory bank” filled with all of the situations you remember as being shameful and embarrassing.
Have you ever asked yourself, “Why me?” “Why did this bad incident happen with me?”
- Things never work out for me.
- I’ll never be successful.
- I’m not good enough to get what I want.
- I’m so embarrassing.
- I’m not going to take risks again.
- This is as good as things will get.
- I don’t know if I can ever be happy.
- Why can’t I interact easily with others?
“Why me?” is something that will encourage self pity and will not let you grow. You have to take the pain with you and move. There are many more opportunities that will come to you and you will have good experiences as well. In essence, you keep reliving those embarrassing things and it may feel as though you can’t shut off your brain. The more you think about your problems, the harder it is to regain your psychological health.
Everyone has things in their past they aren’t fond of. We all experience negative events at some point in our lives and some of us overcome them, whereas others relive the bad memories for years.
- “It’s their responsibility to make this better, because it’s their fault.”
- “I’m being punished, because I’m a bad person.”
- “I’m justified in staying upset, because I was wronged.”
- “What happened was so bad that it’s impossible for me to heal.”
- “I need an apology before I can move on.”
That explains how people get themselves in this mess and how we all have the solution built in, if we’re willing to uncover it.
Overcome Negative Experiences and Bad Memories.
we consider a bad experience depends on our conditioning and mental strength. Something we may think is a bad experience may not be a big deal to someone else. Having the ability to deal with bad experiences is extremely valuable if we want to have good mental health.
- Evaluate your thoughts about your experiences.
- Get the proper help you need.
- Do not relive your experiences.
- Use your experiences to develop greater self-awareness.
- Refocus on something new or better
The way you think always shows in your actions. The things you do in a positive frame of mind will succeed because you do things in the right way and do not have second thoughts about it. Positive thoughts help you take a new look at the bad experiences in life that have happened in the past and they are what makes you go forward and take a chance.
Find out if you have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Make your health a priority.
Avoid alcohol and drugs
Learn to be in the present.
Our beliefs can get in the way of our innate coping mechanisms. Some of them can get us stuck in the negativity and keep us from letting it go. But I am here to support you in stopping this dead-end course once and for all.
your goal is NOT to
- make yourself forget about the past – Unless you have a Men-In-Black-style neuralyzer, that’s not gonna happen.
- avoid, ignore, diminish or suppress your feelings – This would create more and maybe worse issues to replace or add onto the old ones.
- wallow in self-pity, anger, doubt – Acknowledging and accepting your emotions and allowing yourself to feel them wholly is not the same as dwelling on them with no end in sight.
- relive the past – It’s impossible to change what happened, no matter how much you replay it in your mind. All you can do is change how you view it and how you respond.
- wait for someone to apologize for or acknowledge what happened – This puts the power in someone else’s hands, when it’s entirely in your own control.
NOTE- Next time you have an experience you deem to be bad, use these ideas to move past it quicker. Give yourself time to process the experience, then let it go so you can free yourself from it.
Animal mischief reduces stress.
In a stress-filled life, you adopt different methods to get mental peace. Keeping this in mind, the University of Britain’s Leeds University in Britain conducted a study in collaboration with Western Australia Tourism. It was found that if you watch cute videos of animals while sleeping at night, then definitely help in reducing your stress. The study said that watching videos of cute animals can reduce your stress levels by almost 50%. Viewing these animals led to an average of 6.5% decrease in heart rate and 35% in anxiety. The study found that most people still particularly like watching videos of pets.